Pathological Selfishness In Cheaters

Pathological selfishness is related directly to narcissism, narcissistic people are also commonly cheaters. Anyone you are dating or if you think back to people you have dated that are very selfish individuals are also linked with an increase of infidelity. These people are so self-involved that they think they can sleep with anyone they want to as if it’s their right. Let’s look at some signs of pathological selfishness which can help you avoid a terrible relationship and nasty cheaters.

1.Plans Are On Their Terms

You make plans and they don’t accept them or only go with half of what you want to do but then turn the event around by changing a lot of it into their own plans saying “it will be more fun this way”. This is a sign of pathological selfishness and you might have been taken advantage of for your kindness. If you are with someone who is not listening to your plans or ideas they may not actually value your time, effort, or emotional needs. They might be using you just to have company around or worse using you as another object as part of their serial cheating.

Take note if it seems like spending time with them always needs their approval. Decisions making on where to go out to eat, who to hang out with, and how to spend a day tends to always be what they want to do unless you don’t enjoy making these decisions and you specifically ask them to be done for you. Also if your choices or decisions are ignored and pushed aside quickly without and discussion. These would be critical signs of Pathological Selfishness.

2.Negative Communication

Pathological Selfishness is correlated with consistent negative feedback in regards to your comments, ideas, and actions. You would experience frequent negative criticism as if everything you do seems as though it is not good enough or should have been done differently. As you know communication is everything in a relationship, consider this question. How do you feel after you communicate ideas with your partner? Do you feel valued, respected? If not, the opposite of respect is contempt, which would leave you feeling negatively judged and criticized.

3.Unequal Effort

You may have also heard that a relationship needs equal give and take. In a long-term relationship, it’s normal for short spans of time to be unequal, where one person is giving more time or energy as a sacrifice not only to the relationship but to the family. However this will usually be short-term, well communicated, and eventually reciprocated by the other partner. If from the beginning of the relationship you are giving more time, energy, or even money and your partner never reciprocates in any way or doesn’t seem to be giving much back then something is very wrong. A lack of effort is often a sign of being disinterested and disengaged.

4.No Apology

Anyone who shows signs of pathological selfishness will not be quick to say they are sorry, use words like “I was wrong” or have any remorse for their actions. If you caught your partner flirting with someone else, you know for sure that’s what they are doing then you can confront them. If they don’t attempt any apology then you might want to run away quickly. It can be considered normal for a partner to be nice to someone, even flirting without any suggestions to go any further than pure conversation in the moment can be okay. However frequent flirting with the same person would be a red flag.

5. Can’t Keep A Promise

Pathological selfishness has no room for trust, anyone who is that selfish will not care to keep a promise, keep a secret, or not talk about you behind your back. The general character of these people is what makes them susceptible to cheating. The quality of their character through honesty and integrity is obviously related to cheating. Anyone who cannot keep a promise is breaking your trust, which opens the door to many other ways of betrayal. Be careful of those who cannot keep a promise or a secret.

6.They Always Come First

Priorities are easily noticed when you are dealing with pathological selfishness, they always come first. A clear sign is when someone else is in difficulty, they will always find a way to make the situation more to their advantage. This type of selfishness is often found at the death bed of their parents, during life they do not visit or help the parents, until at the death bed with hopes of being involved in the will. Its sad to say, the lengths of selfishness some people will go to.

-Pathological selfishness is directly related to all types of cheaters, mostly serial cheaters. The contempt and narcissism they hold is so deep that only their own benefits matter. If you know anyone who is deeply selfish, do not attempt to help them. These people will gladly take your help, and somehow manage to also take advantage of you in the run of it.